Today I’d like to remind you of one of the most important things that you already know – something that can have a BIG impact on your relationships. I’d like to talk about unexpected, simple kindnesses.
Most of us live in a maddeningly busy world – jobs, school, kids, parents, social activities, organizations, the list is substantial. Thus is the nature of our western society. An unfortunate result of that hectic schedule is we tend to forget how powerful and healing an act of unexpected kindness can be.
It’s not that we don’t want to leverage this wonderful tool, it’s simply that we forget or don’t believe we have the time. The truth is, we make time for whatever is really important to us., don’t we?
Certainly things like birthday, Valentines and anniversary cards or gifts are wonderful and appreciated but they are also expected which, to some extent, lessens their impact. There is, we believe, an obligation associated with them. An unexpected kindness, on the other hand is just that, unexpected. As a result, it tends to be met with greater appreciation and the wonderful element of surprise.
It doesn’t need to be anything extravagant and can, indeed be quite simple. Your wife comes home to find that you’ve done the dishes for her. Your husband finds a loving note in his luggage when he’s on the road. Your Mom receives an unexpected card in the mail for absolutely no reason other than to say, “I love you.” You surprise your bride with flowers from the grocery store when you only went for milk.
It’s these kinds of happy surprises can that say, “I was thinking of you, I love and cherish you, you are important to me” perhaps better than all the special occasion gifts in the world. They nurture the heart and soul of someone you care deeply about and in a truly healthy relationship, there should be nothing more important to you than that.
So make a promise to yourself that you will take the time out of your busy schedule to do something unexpected and special for someone you love and although you do it for them, not for you, the dividends it will pay are enormous. Get going!
~Edward G. Dunn